Resolving Conflict

Teaching elementary age children about conflict resolution is important for fostering peaceful relationships and effective communication. Here is a guideline for parents to use during teachable moments when explaining the concept of resolving conflict and the choices and consequences associated with it:

• 1.Define conflict resolution: Begin by explaining that conflict resolution means finding peaceful ways to resolve disagreements or conflicts with others. Emphasize that conflict is a normal part of relationships and that resolving it positively can strengthen connections.

• 2.Discuss different types of conflicts: Explain that conflicts can arise from differences in opinions, needs, or expectations. Discuss examples of conflicts that children may encounter, such as sharing toys, disagreements with friends, or conflicts with siblings.

• 3.Explore peaceful strategies: Discuss strategies for resolving conflicts peacefully. Teach children about active listening, empathy, compromise, and finding win-win solutions. Help them understand that resolving conflicts requires respect, open communication, and a willingness to find common ground.

• 4.Discuss choices related to conflict resolution: Talk about the choices children can make when facing a conflict. Choices may include staying calm, expressing their feelings respectfully, actively listening to the other person's perspective, and working together to find a solution.

• 5.Highlight consequences of conflict resolution choices: Discuss the consequences of different conflict resolution choices. Help children understand that choosing positive conflict resolution strategies can lead to improved relationships, strengthened trust, and a peaceful environment. Negative choices, such as aggression or avoidance, can escalate conflicts and damage relationships.

• 6.Teach problem-solving skills: Teach children problem-solving skills that they can apply during conflicts. Help them break down conflicts into manageable parts, brainstorm possible solutions, and evaluate the pros and cons of each option. Encourage them to choose the solution that benefits everyone involved.

• 7.Encourage empathy and perspective-taking: Foster empathy by encouraging children to consider the other person's feelings and perspective. Help them understand that each person may have different needs or experiences, and that empathizing with others can lead to better understanding and resolution.

• 8.Promote active listening: Teach children the importance of active listening during conflicts. Help them practice listening attentively to the other person's point of view without interrupting. Encourage them to ask questions to clarify their understanding.

• 9.Demonstrate assertiveness: Teach children to express their own feelings and needs assertively during conflicts. Encourage them to use "I" statements to communicate how they feel and what they need, while avoiding blame or accusations.

• 10.Reinforce positive behavior: Acknowledge and praise your child's efforts to resolve conflicts peacefully. Celebrate instances where they show empathy, use effective communication skills, and work towards finding a resolution. Reinforce the positive impact of their choices and actions.

• 11.Provide guidance and mediation: When conflicts arise, provide guidance and support to help children navigate the resolution process. Offer suggestions, ask open-ended questions, and facilitate constructive discussions. Mediate if necessary, ensuring a safe and fair environment for conflict resolution.



Remember, teaching about conflict resolution is an ongoing process. By following this guideline, parents can help their children understand the concept of resolving conflict, make informed choices, and recognize the importance of peaceful communication and understanding in their relationships.